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Link Between Food and Mood

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Foods to keep you happy, confident and healthy

There are a lot of things we need to consider related to food, staying healthy and feeling good about ourselves.  Here, I’m just listing 2 key areas I believe strongly in.

There is a big connection between carbohydrates and your mood. Your mood is linked to a chemical in the brain called serotonin. By eating smart carbs like whole grains, fruits, vegetables, and legumes (beans) you can feel good about yourself.

Low levels of vitamin D have been linked to depression.  You can take vitamin D in pill form, you can get it from certain foods, but you can also get it straight from the sun. This is the best source for vitamin D.  A good 30 to 60 minutes 2 to 3 times a week should do the trick.  So soak up a few rays (with plenty of sun screen on) and it will make a difference in how you feel about yourself.

Tips for Dealing With a Bully

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1) It’s Not You, It’s Them

Chances are if they are treating you poorly, they have done it to others as well. You are not walking around with a giant target on your back. Trust me, it’s them.

2) Avoid Them

We can all see a bully coming, so if you feel them turning their attention to you, change your space immediately.

3) Show No Fear

If confronted by a bully, be strong and stand up for yourself. Show a bully that you aren’t affected by their words or actions and they will move on.

4) Keep Your Friends Close

They can serve as a great source of support for you even if they don’t say anything. Just having them there when dealing with a bully can help.

5) Talk About It

It’s OK to tell an adult.  If you don’t feel comfortable talking to your teacher, have a friend do it for you. It shouldn’t be tolerated.

Self Sabotage: The Biggest Enemy of Healthy Self-esteem

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Self sabotage is your mind’s way of working against you for no logical reason.  Basically, it stems from unconscious beliefs that you are unworthy of happiness and/or success.  Low self-esteem is directly linked to self-sabotage because it reinforces those negative thoughts and controls what you believe you can achieve and puts a limit on how much.  Self sabotage can be reversed. It just takes figuring out the triggers, implementing the proper tools and consistently changing those negative thought patters.

Let’s call the inner person doing this damage (or sabotage) the saboteur.  Give the saboteur a name and create a visual so you know who you are combating when those negative thoughts come into your head.  Only you have the power to make the saboteur big or small, strong or weak, because you are the one allowing him or her to feed you with negative thoughts.

So how do you deal with self-sabotage?  First, you need to identify how you’re sabotaging yourself. Usually, the saboteur presents him or herself in the form of negative self-talk.  Examples: You can’t do it, you’re not smart enough, you aren’t thin enough, you will never get what you want, etc. The way we talk to ourselves started a long time ago when we were children and so it’s hard to change, but not impossible.  It just takes time and consistency. Negative self-talk will stay with you as long as you give it power. You simply need the right tools to fight it.

1) Become more in tune with your inner voice. I’m a huge believer in thought stopping.  As you hear yourself spiraling into the negative, literally say NO out load, stop the thought and immediately say 3 positive affirmations about yourself. For some reason, saying it out load actually makes you feel better and helps you realize how often you think negative thoughts.  If we are lucky, the number of negative thoughts become fewer day after day.  Envision the saboteur getting smaller and weaker. Don’t let the saboteur ever win.

2) I also like the idea of turning negative self-talk first into neutral self-talk. This gets you one step closer to positive self-talk and can be easier to do if the negative self-talk is strong when you first start these exercises. The saboteur loves mental complaining, she feeds off it. Don’t give her the satisfaction.  No more “I can’t” but how about “I will try.” If a friend cancels on you, neutral self-talk says “What should I now do with that free time?” If  you don’t get everything accomplished on your to-do-list, neutral self-talk doesn’t beat you up but says, “Maybe I can finish this list tomorrow.”  No complaining allowed, only neutral thoughts.  It takes time to recalibrate your thinking, but it can happen.

3) Another suggestion is to keep a journal and write down all the ways in which you consistently find yourself self-sabotaging. Put it right there out in the open for you to see; it takes the power away for the saboteur. Next, you need to add to each of those self sabotaging actions what positive or neutral actions/thoughts would look like. So the next time you find yourself self sabotaging in that exact manner, you can carry out the healthy plan of action that you already identified in the journal. The key is follow through.

4) ALWAYS surround yourself with people who truly love and support you. Stay away from negative people, they will only bring you down further.  Your saboteur loves negative people because having them around only reinforces their presence. If you find yourself with negative people, envision a shield protecting you and their thoughts simply bouncing off.  Visualization is an effective and powerful tool.