Every two and a half minutes a woman is sexually assaulted, and the risk is four times greater for, teens between the ages of 15-19. This is a very scary statistic and means every teenage girl is susceptible to sexual assault. The definition of sexual assault is so broad that it can be misunderstood and leave victims feeling confused, guilty and ashamed. What is even sadder, 70% of the victims know their assailant. But what makes sexual assault even more destructive is the high percentage of victims that are blamed for their attack. Sadly, family members and friends are often first to blame the victim. They are easily persuaded by doubt, or be convinced the victim asked for the assault based on their knowledge of the victim. This is called victim blaming.
Victim blaming in relation to sexual assault happens quite often. An assault is committed and the victim is blamed for the crimes. Sometimes the victim blaming rears its head in very subtle ways. Friends, neighbors and the local community may respond to the victim by either ignoring them, and treating them like an outcast, or verbally attacking the victim. Sadly, victim blaming doesn’t stop there, professional workers that should be on the side of the victim, including doctors, lawyers and the media, have doubts about the victim’s story or believe that the attack is somehow justifiable. People are often convinced that the victim deserved the treatment or asked for it. This kind of treatment is wrong and it can be very hurtful and leave the victim feeling alone and depressed.
The reality of victim blaming for sexual assault plagues thousands of women but is most common among teens. Teens are very fragile and impressionable and can easily be influenced, and convinced that maybe they are the ones to be blamed for their assault or abuse. After all, if everyone believes it is their fault, then maybe they did ask for the attack or even deserved the attack. This is victim blaming at its worst because now not only does everyone believe it is the victims fault, but the victim believes it too, and the saddest part of the crime is the assailant or criminal is never punished and get away with what they have done.
Women and teens of sexual assault don’t just get better, especially when victim blaming is involved. There is a lot of mental and emotional damage that has been done and because many have blamed the victim, and even the victim has blamed herself, she never gets the help that is needed. A lot of teens end up carrying the incident all of their life and for many teens, this can have negative effects on their future. It can lead to depression, low self-esteem and self inflicted violence such as cutting. Many victims cannot have functional or healthy relationships with people especially men. Others may be so damaged by the assault and being blamed that they just don’t recover and struggle to live a normal and healthy life.
The bottom line is, nobody deserves to be sexually abused or assaulted, and the brutal attack of women and teens is never asked for or deserved. The victim should never be persuaded or convinced that their behaviors asked for the assault or they deserved it. It doesn’t matter the circumstance, an unwanted or unwelcome sexual assault is a crime that has the fingerprints of the assailant all over it and never the victim.
Victims need to get through their assault by getting help and there is help available that can restore them mentally and emotionally and help them to move forward. Here’s is a great website and a great resource for parents and teens to learn more.