The Girl Talk Summer Program

Doctor Carol presents an online summer program experience for teen girls.

Doctor Carol’s book,  Girl Talk: Boys, Bullies, and Body Image is a compilation of 10 teen girls’ powerful and all-too-familiar stories. Dr. Carol also examines each girl’s situation and provides practical advice and workbook questions on how all teens can take control of their life and RAISE (Resilience, Attitude, Independence, Self-Respect, and Empowerment) their self-esteem.

The Girl Talk Summer Program will engage girls online around critical dialogue depicted in the book. Topics to be covered will be peer pressure, bullying, relationship, and relationship building as well as many others. Dr. Carol will teach her RAISE system to the girls in this summer program.

The Girl Talk Summer Program will be an online 2- week program where the girls will engage as a community 90 minutes a day for 2 weeks with Dr. Carol. All girls will be sent a copy of her book and discussions will be formed around identified chapters. As a teen girl self-esteem development expert, Dr. Carol will dive into each chapter’s storyline allowing the girls to share their own thoughts and feelings as well as providing practical tips, tools, and resources. This is a community-building opportunity for teen girls because not only will they be learning about confidence, self-esteem, and empowerment from Dr. Carol, they will be forming relationships, trust, and bonds with each other.

Format: 4 days a week (for 2 weeks) with daily reading assignments.

Time Frame: Monday-Thursdays @ 10am PST  (June- 15th– June 25th- 8 sessions total)

Materials: Every girl that signs up for Dr. Carol’s Online Summer Program, will be sent a copy of her book Girl Talk: Boys, Bullies, and Body Image as a resource.

Cost: The online 2-weeks summer program will cost $200. Please sign up HERE.

Appropriate for girls age 14 through 17

How to Support Grieving Teens During COVID-19

What many teens are experiencing right now is defined as grief.

Spring is always an exciting time for our kids. The new year begins and they get to start over with a fresh perspective. They make resolutions, put away winter clothes, and spring is in bloom as they look forward to a new sports season. At school, they get to finish up final reports/tests and projects….all leading up to the last day of school and the beginning of SUMMER! If you have a senior, it’s even more glorious. Many receive their college acceptances, they have senior week activities, banquets, parties, prom, and graduation. I think most of us can look back on those days leading up to graduation with so much joy and anticipation. Starting a new chapter in one’s life post high school is a momentous occasion. Some teens are deciding to take a discovery (gap) year, starting their first jobs, some are taking extended summer trips, while others are just happily prepping and planning for freshman year. In light of COVID-19, this generation experienced none of these “rights of passage”. Graduation for many may seem lackluster, anticlimactic, and definitely confusing. This should be one of the most joyous times in their lives, but instead, they feel sad, angry, let down, and possibly overwhelmed.

What they are experiencing is grief. Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Grieving has 5 stages. Understanding these stages may help parents and teens better deal with the present situation brought on by COVID-19.

The first stage of grief is denial. It’s hard to wrap our brains around the term global pandemic, so it’s easier for many teens to try and just put it out of their mind instead of facing it head-on. Many teens are in serious denial that there is a real threat, that people can spread it, catch it, and ultimately die from it. So the next time, your teen starts talking about summer vacation or the next school year, in terms that don’t seem to match up with the state of world affairs, step back and take a pause. It’s important to acknowledge their hope and/or”wishful thinking” but its also important to bring them back to the present realities of the situation. Thye can be hopeful but not as a tactic to avoid their very real and present feelings. They need both.

The second stage is anger. No one wants to shelter-in-place but for adults with life experience, we understand that this will pass. If you’re a teen, you can’t see the end in sight because you have no similar previous experiences telling you that everything will be ok. This is one-time parents don’t have all the answers and that can be scary. Teens are frustrated with being stuck at home and their spring semester has been completely hijacked which would cause anyone to feel angry. For may teens, they have no clear outlet for something like this so they misdirect their anger at mom and dad (and maybe their siblings.) As a parent, acknowledge your understanding of what they are experiencing, show empathy, and try to share with them better ways for dealing with their anger.

The third stage of grief is bargaining. By nature, teens need and want to be around other teens to socialize.  Because of social distancing—this is being compromised and challenged. Many teens will try hard to negotiate with their parents to see their friends right now. Pestering like a broken record in some cases; they can be relentless. Remind them that social distancing is not just for them but for all those they encounter. We are unclear how some people can be carriers and not show any symptoms. Exposing oneself puts the whole family at risk. Have them set up more zoom chats, create online challenges with friends, and/or find new online communities with people who have the same interests and hobbies. This can actually expand their interests and introduce them to new things.

The fourth stage is depression. Teens are sad about school and not seeing their friends. They can’t just hang out, go to practice or any other after school activity. Their daily routines and activities have been completely removed. That’s a lot of loss to consider in one short period of time, not to mention the devastating loss of loved ones due to the virus. It’s can all feel very overwhelming and out of control. Signs of depression can be, inability to focus, crying for extended periods of time, loss of interest for things that used to interest them, loss of appetite, feeling lethargic but not able to sleep, and more than usual self-isolation in their rooms. Make time for more family activities like movie nights, cooking dinner together as a family, playing games indoors and outdoors (safely). Find a balance between giving them space but not letting them isolate for extended periods of time.

The fifth and final stage of grief is acceptance. Teens who reach the fifth stage are in a place of acceptance and understand that “this too shall pass.” They realize it’s useless to resist a global pandemic and surrender. If they can reach this stage, their emotions will stabilize, and they will start to experience a calm that comes from accepting what they cannot change. Then they can look at the situation more clearly, let go of control and attempt to plan accordingly. Ultimately, they will become more flexible in their thinking and lose those rigid expectations for what was.

*It’s important to remember that grief isn’t linear and doesn’t follow a scheduled timeline. When dealing with grief a person may go in and out of stages; sometimes many in one day. Your teen can be happy one moment, crying the next and then expressing misdirected anger. It’s challenging for a parent, but it’s all part of the grieving process. If you find your child in a place of acceptance and calm that’s great, but try not to project your frustration if they move out of that stage and back into one of the others. As a source of support, be compassionate and be present. They are doing the best they can. If there is one positive coming out of this situation it’s that your teens are gaining incredible coping skills during this difficult time that will serve them well for the rest of their lives.

There are a few interesting resources that may be helpful during this time beyond the general recommendations about staying active, eating healthy, and sticking to a sleep routine. There is a wellness tool (and mobile app) for mind and body called My Strength where you can create a personalized program with interactive activities, in-the-moment coping tools, inspirational resources, and community support. You can track goals, log current emotional states, and identify ways to improve your awareness and change your behaviors.

The other is called The Corona Diaries. This is a website that documents the pandemic through 2-minute personal stories from around the world. You can hear how others are coping and share your own story, which is always cathartic. This can be a powerful way to feel heard, connected, remove isolation, and build a stronger understanding of community beyond your own neighborhood, city, state, and even country.

Lastly, if you were thinking about getting a pet, now really is a perfect time. A pet can serve as a source of comfort and calm and give your kids a sense of purpose/responsibility so they can stop focusing on loss even for a short while.

Safety Tips for Parents of New Teen Drivers

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Watching your kid transition from a learner’s permit to a driver’s license may give you a feeling of deja vu, like a reboot of a John Hughes movie unfolding before your eyes. All the plot twists, conflicts, and resolutions you went through in getting your own license may be coming back to life in a coming-of-age tale starring your kid—the same kid whose diapers you used to change, whose first steps you watched while lining the way with pillows, and whose head you protected with a helmet when they were first learning how to ride a bike. Believe it or not, that kid is behind the wheel now, and your job isn’t to steer it from the side—it’s to guide them into making the right choices on their own. Remember that feeling of independence when you were finally able to drive yourself and your friends anywhere your hearts desired? Remember all the shenanigans you guys got up to? Understandably, that may be the very reason you’re terrified now.

Not to worry—your teen driver’s excitement is most likely balanced out with a healthy amount of fear, as it should be because getting behind the wheel for the first time is a great responsibility. Not only are they responsible for their (or your) vehicle, but they also have a responsibility to their passengers and others on the road. They know that safety is paramount, but in the excitement of the moment, they may forget the crucial basics they (already or will have) learned in driving school.
In this article, we’ll tackle everything you need to know as the parent (or
grandparent, aunt, uncle, or guardian) of a teen driving for the first time.

Help Your Teen Get through Driver’s Ed
Before your teen gets the opportunity to take the driver’s test, some states like California will require them to attend a driver’s education (or “driver’s ed”) class. Driver’s ed is specifically designed for new drivers. It will equip them with the know-how to legally obtain a driver’s license and understand the risks involved. These classes are offered in some local high schools as a school-sponsored program, but some are restricted by low budgets, which could affect the quality of instruction. As AAA spokesperson Tom Crosby said, “We are killing too many kids because they have not been taught correctly.” Research driver’s ed programs in your area and help the teen in your life choose the best one. Attending driver’s ed is essential, even if your state does not require it. It will help your teen learn the following skills to make them a great driver.

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