August 1, 2012 2 Comments
Another term we could use instead of self-respect would be pride. So what does it mean to have self-respect or pride in oneself?
Teens sometimes have difficulty with the concept of self-respect because they tie it to closely to acceptance by their peers. They truly believe that their friends have their best interest in mind, but sometimes we see that is not always the case. True friends love us for who we are, help us through difficult times, and even talk us out of making mistakes. They would never put us in harms way for the sake of popularity or make us the butt of a joke for a cheap laugh. Sometimes teens confuse authentic friendships as well as intimate relationships with those that can actually be quite damaging. If you ask a teen to define self-respect, most of them can. However, they have a difficult time turning those words into action. They don’t understand what self-respect looks like in practice or action. In my book, Girrl Up!, I talk to teens about their views on self-respect, what it really is and where they think they themselves or other teens go wrong in relation to this concept. Also, I explore and provide teens as well as parents with concrete examples of authentic relationships, healthy self-respect in action and ways to improve it.