Anxiety Logs Prepare Teens Well for Mindfulness Techniques.

images-1Like many others, I too believe that teens with anxiety benefit from mindfulness techniques;  however, I find that before a teen can practice mindfulness techniques, they first need to identify the anxiety in a tangible way. I believe the best way to do this is through what I call an anxiety log.  This is simply a journal or notebook that a teen can write in about their weekly experiences with anxiety.

  1. Step One- I encourage my clients to keep a notebook or journal and write down every time they feel anxious (date and time) for two weeks.  This way we can first determine “how frequently” their anxiety occurs.  It’s a great starting point for them to take control of the anxiety, name it and have a direct response to its occurrence.  It also serves as a good marker to understand the “typical” amount of anxiety a particular teens feels/experiences in any given week.
  2. Step Two- I have my clients tell me in detail about the anxiety they wrote down in their log. This way the anxiety is no longer some secretive scary thing, it’s something we openly talk about together in a safe space. We continue this for a few weeks.
  3. Step Three- I have my clients continue with the log, but at this point (along w date/time) they write down what is happening WHEN the anxiety occurs. (Such as: where they were, who was there, time of day, etc.) This starts to take the power away from the anxiety.  Instead of freezing in panic, heart pounding, palms sweating during the next anxiety attack, they start to direct their focus to the details around the attack for the log. I find that teens will go back after an anxiety attack and write volumes about the situation/experience. This (called journaling) in and of itself is a powerful tool for empowerment and healing.
  4. Step Four- Along with the above steps, I now have THEM rank the attacks on a scale of (1-10) so we can better understand, which were the worst and which were the easier attacks to get through.  At this point, they are painting a very full and clear picture of their anxiety.

After a few months of meetings, we now have enough data to look at patterns in the anxiety as well as their triggers. I can ask questions such as: “What do you think the attacks have in common?”  Or, “Why do you think the attacks are only at night?  This way they are an active participant in putting the puzzle together around their own anxiety.  So the next time they have an attack they will start to think…… “Why is this happening right now?  What just triggered the anxiety? Have I seen this pattern before?”

Sometimes, just bringing awareness to the anxiety can cut down the frequency of the attacks.  Once teens are comfortable thinking about their anxiety in this way, writing about it and talking about it openly, we can then approach mindfulness through coping skills and relaxation techniques.

I always tell teens that tackling anxiety takes preparation.  Would you go into a math exam without studying? OR… Would you go into a tennis match without practice? The same goes for taking on anxiety.  You have to be prepared. The log helps prepare them well before applying any mindfulness techniques.

Why not make some attainable goals this year? That’s MY new year’s resolution.

New year’s resolution for 2015…….To create some attainable goals this year. That’s MY resolution.th

Why is it that we make resolutions that can be really hard to keep? Why don’t we choose attainable goals that we can strive toward and feel good about achieving.

Instead, we make resolutions about running a marathon or climbing a mountain when we have never done any of these activities before and don’t even have the proper tools to get us there. Do we want to fail? Do we like not achieving our goals?  Why do we think it terms or “all or none” when it comes to the new year’s resolution.

I have an idea. Why not do things differently this year. Let’s think about attainable goals within our reach.  Like….I’m going to be a better friend this year or I’m going to be kind to my siblings and more respectful to my parents. Or, I’m going to try my hardest in school.  These are resolutions completely within your control.

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If you want to give back to the community, how about committing to volunteering at an animal shelter or a food bank ONCE a month. That’s just 12 times a year.  Pick 12 different organizations if you like. This is totally doable and not overwhelming. You will feel good about helping others and the organizations will appreciate your time. Everybody wins. Also, do it with a friend so you have each other to lean on.

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Think about resolutions as something you achieve on a monthly basis. Like, in January I’ll clean out my grandparents attic for them. In February, I’ll teach my little sister how to ride her bike. In March, I’ll help my mom plant flowers in the yard. You get the idea.  Write up your list and keep it handy. This way you can feel good about your resolutions as you complete them. It will give you a sense of accomplishment every month of the year.  If you can’t come up with your list, ask a friend for help or share with your parents.  Better yet….why not get your school involved and have the list filled with things that your entire class can accomplish together.  That sounds like a fun way to give back, keep your resolutions and feel good about yourself during the process.

Happy New Year!

TEEN MONOLOGUE SERIES at Thick House Theatre in SF Jan 2015!

TEEN MONOLOGUE SERIES: A collection of true stories about real teens struggling  teenage girl Sharing Secret With Friend In Park
with tough issues surrounding self-esteem.

Stories about teens…for teens.

Maybe you know someone like Katie? She is dying to fit in. Literally. A bulimic freshman in high school, she’s drinking and hanging out with the mean girls. Maybe you know someone like her?

Or Cindy. A high school junior who acts like everything is always fine. Playing three sports, getting straight A’s, partying on the weekends, but struggling with depression, perfectionism and addiction.

Seventy-five percent of teenage girls with self-esteem issues (have reported) engaging in negative activities such as: smoking, drinking, bullying, cutting, eating disorders, risky sexual behavior, and even suicide attempts. Story telling is a very powerful form of acceptence and self healing.

Dates: Jan 10th and 11th

LocationThick House Theatre in SF

Time: 11am, 1pm and Sunday 2pm

For ticket information click here!